I have been thinking a lot about our emotions and how it is so amazing that those subtle, invisible vibrations in our bodies drive everything we do.
Contrails (Your Past is Stalking You)
When someone says to you: “Tell me about yourself.” How do you respond?
Most of us take this to mean the trifecta: What do you do? Are you married? Do you have kids?
The interesting thing about how we respond to these lines of questioning is that our responses almost invariably describe our pasts.
Forget NYE Resolutions
New Year’s came and went and here I stood, resolution-less. That might seem odd, given my profession. Let me explain.
The Standards We Keep
With New Year’s Eve and new resolutions fast approaching, I have been thinking a lot about the challenges that often accompany new year’s resolutions. We can be our best advocate or our worst enemy. For many of my clients, they unwittingly choose to break themselves down instead of building themselves up. We place all sorts of expectations on ourselves and keep “manuals” on how we are supposed to go through this life but we don’t confront those manuals.
Too often we subscribe to the notion that there is a right way to “do life.”
Jealousy
Jealousy is such an unpleasant emotion. It communicates to us that we are losing at this game of life. That someone is getting something better than we are getting. That the hand we were dealt is less than. It’s not fair. How can we stop feeling jealous?
Fairy Tales and Happy Endings
Recently, I had a client ask me: Have you ever had a client that achieves all their goals and is just living the dream and happy?
She wanted me to say
Yes! I have made her life a dream. I can solve
ALL of your problems too, I promise. I can make you happy. I can make your life
happy.
But that wasn’t the truth. There is no happy ending. There is no happily ever after.
Normalcy and Money
Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the word “normal.” What is normal? Why do we care? Who decides what is normal?
The Power of IDK
Why do people refuse to acknowledge when they don’t know something?
Because they are trying to manipulate you.
Hear me out.
Judgment
My most recent epiphany? I am a judge-y biach. And listen, I am not saying this for self-deprecating purposes or to publicly shame myself. I am simply stating my mind’s natural tendency, as I have observed it. If left to its own devices, my brain will run off with all sorts of judgmental criticisms of those around me. I am not a bad person and I genuinely believe in the good of other people; however, regardless of my values, my brain tends toward a cycle of mental abuse of not only others but myself.
Here’s what our judgments are really trying to tell us.