Why We Argue

Disagreements usually happen because we want to treat our thoughts as facts. We are clinging to our thoughts and treating them as if they are a universal truth that everyone, including our current adversary, should endorse. And when they don’t, we lose it.

How can this simple awareness change our tendency to argue?

Having a Bad Day?

Ever reached for a glass of wine (or two) after a “really long day” to “take the edge off” or “wind down”? Ever plow through that whole package of Oreos because you were feeling lonely on a Friday night?

Selling Yourself Short

I have been thinking a lot about our emotions and how it is so amazing that those subtle, invisible vibrations in our bodies drive everything we do.

You Can’t Do That

We all have our baggage and ugly thoughts we carry around.

Even with all the
skills I can teach you, you will
never EVER do away with ugly thinking.

With practice, you can get better at shifting where possible. And, where that’s not possible, carry it with you.

Overwhelm (it’s not the email)

For me, overwhelm feels like hot compression of my chest and a ringing sound, like after a bomb goes off and your ears are trying to adjust. It’s the worst.

What is the real cause of overwhelm and can we prevent it?

Mansplaining

When mansplaining meets your workplace and furthermore, a workplace predominantly staffed by men, mansplaining takes on a whole different personality and meaning for all parties. How to deal.

Negativity Bias

There is something magnetic about the negative news these days. Why is it that so many of us are drawn to it?