• Feeling Defensive

    As lawyers, it is our job to be right. To get the right answer, to find the right solution, to have the right words. In truth, you could say that about any profession,…

  • The Mistake Spiral

    The most common thing I see among associate attorneys is the fear of making mistakes. As attorneys, we can become so paranoid about making a mistake that we put a tremendous amount of…

  • Sunday Mourning Blues

    We’ve all been there….You enjoy a blissful, care-free Saturday. Your email was silent (or ignored). No surprise projects, no random client demand. You relaxed and enjoyed a mental break from work. Then it’s…

  • What Other People Think About You

    How do you describe your practice to others? When you are at a mixer and someone asks what you do, is there a momentary hesitation about promoting your skills? Why is that? I…

  • No, It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way

    Many of my clients are well-respected attorneys, educated, and successful. They seemingly have it all but they are constantly grappling with the question Is this sustainable? Do I want to live like this…

  • Perfectionism

    AKA the most common way we hold ourselves back. I recently had a mini-session where my client was telling me that she needed an entire day to complete one of the tasks on…

  • Impostor Syndrome #LawyerLife

    Many of my clients come to me suffering from “impostor syndrome.” They believe they don’t belong in their world. They aren’t “one of them,” they will never “fit in.” Underneath these beliefs are…

  • To Indecision or Not…?

    Lately, I had several clients who are struggling to make decisions. One client was struggling to select a topic for a presentation she was giving at a seminar. Another client was struggling to…

  • Mansplaining

    Mansplaining is a pejorative term meaning “to comment on or explain something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner.” Author Rebecca Solnit ascribes the phenomenon to a…