How eliminating two simple words from your vocabulary can change your life.
How to Know When It’s Time for a Change
No matter what profession you are in, there will be times in your career where you will wonder if it’s time for a change. One of the most common phrases I hear in coaching is:
How do you know when…
Feeling Unfulfilled
I rarely encounter a client that isn’t struggling in some manner to connect with her purpose. After so many years of working toward this goal of becoming a lawyer, that life isn’t often everything that we thought it would be. We are left looking for something more.
So how do we find our purpose?
Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a way to stay stuck. To convince yourself that your efforts are noble. You simply want to do it right and you can’t move forward until you do that. It seems valid. It seems reasonable. But this is simply fear masquerading in a more “honorable” outfit. The fear of failure, dressed as perfectionism.
Having Your Own Back
When trying to make a big decision, so many of my clients get stuck in the quagmire of indulgent emotions.
Indulgent emotions are those emotions that seem really important. They feel like we should pay attention to them. They suck us into their black hole and keep us from moving forward.
They are indulgent because we linger and stay with those emotions for far too long; we allow those emotions to take over and before we know it, we have been out of the game for weeks. We’ve been “busy” worrying.
Selling Yourself Short
I have been thinking a lot about our emotions and how it is so amazing that those subtle, invisible vibrations in our bodies drive everything we do.
Genie Brain
We have all had those moments were our brain is directed toward a particular item/realization/thought and suddenly your world is filled with evidence to support that thought. Can we leverage our brains to create more or what we want?
Contrails (Your Past is Stalking You)
When someone says to you: “Tell me about yourself.” How do you respond?
Most of us take this to mean the trifecta: What do you do? Are you married? Do you have kids?
The interesting thing about how we respond to these lines of questioning is that our responses almost invariably describe our pasts.
The Elusive Happy
Do you ever feel confused about why you are not happier in your life?
You have a job that pays the bills. You have a home. You are healthy. You have family and friends who care about you.
Despite seemingly having all the ingredients to live a satisfied life, you just can’t seem to find happiness.
It always feels like something is missing or you catch yourself constantly wondering is this it?
Forget NYE Resolutions
New Year’s came and went and here I stood, resolution-less. That might seem odd, given my profession. Let me explain.